My oldest son, about to start middle school, has a very good friend with whom he's inseparable. The friend is a very smart and well-behaved boy, and we love having him around, which is pretty much all the time (the two have sleepovers almost every weekend and shorter playdates even on weekdays).
The friend's parents have been divorced for a number of years and the mom is getting remarried. We've known about the wedding for a few months and I usually ask her how the preparations are going, because it's a good topic for small talk at pick-up/drop-off, and she seems really excited and always eager to chat about it.
The wedding is this weekend and there will be about 150 people (that strikes me as fairly large, but maybe not according to American standards). We were not invited to the wedding. Today, as we were doing kid pick up/drop off, the bride-to-be told my husband that they (the bride, groom, and the bride's kids) would come over to our place before the wedding, at 11-ish am on Saturday, all dressed up and in the limo, to say 'hi' and have some pictures taken with us.
That struck me as really odd and, in all honesty, ticked me off a bit. Why exactly are they coming over to our place to take pictures? If they wanted to share the wedding day with us, they should have invited us to the wedding, it's not like it's a small intimate affair. This way, they are honestly just disturbing our Saturday routine (which pretty much involves the kids lazily lying about watching TV, me talking on the phone while trying to wake up with coffee before preparing brunch, and my husband sleeping late after playing World of Warcraft till wee hours the night before). Are we now supposed to get all dressed up or what?
I suppose they want to show off their fancy limo, dress, and tuxedos, but still -- I think the whole thing is a bit rude, assuming we'd be available and interested in the showing off. We are not part of the event and they can show us pictures after the fact.
Am I the only one whom this strikes as weird or inconsiderate? Or maybe it is acceptable as a cultural peculiarity that I am not familiar with? Whaddaya think, Intertube friends: odd or not?